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What you express, is important for me to hear. I work in climate and can sometimes shout down facts in desperate attempts to get the ball moving. When we(including myself) get defensive, I do wonder "what right have we, with such high standard of living, have claim to victimhood when asked to shop less much when actual victims in env justice communities are dying". Human beings arent linear machines. Facts in, actions out doesnt work. Good communication, is such a critical piece of the puzzle. Thank you for taking the time to explain it to me. (And louder, for the cheap seats in the back.)

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Ah, the « this or that » matter. One of my personal life challenges has been allowing myself to live beyond the confines where I feel society might prefer to place me (Sometimes I wonder if it's actually me, rather than 'them,' who imposes these boundaries!).

Being a 'mindful' shopper and openly identifying as such can invite criticism from others. But who defines what it means to be a mindful shopper? Who sets the standards and metrics to decide who fits into one category or another?

Expressing who you truly are at any given moment is a powerful act. Embracing change, growth, and the evolution of your thoughts is invaluable. I truly believe there is no need to confine yourself to one category or another, Mrs Solomon 😉. Embrace the beautiful, nuanced grey area, and create space for meaningful conversations. Let the flow guide you as you always do 💖

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😘 thank you for that — means a lot!

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I love reading and watching you, Rachel 🙌🏻😌 is there anybody here who is your follower and is after you in any way for the way you choose to live your life and spend your money? If not, why do you feel like talking about what other people do on Substack? …or explain your choices or shopping preferences? Are you being criticized or bullied? Best

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And p.s. Thank you! I love your friendship, E.

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I don’t necessarily feel *I* am but I do feel that’s out there on Substack. I’ve read things that go beyond asking why or a critique among equals — and end up feeling like mockery.

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"everyone's getting in their own way" !!

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Rachel, this is a great topic and so relevant to many areas of life. I agree, moderation is so important. I am often a fence-sitter! I want to gather as much information, stay curious and hear things from different angles before I arrive at my own opinion on something. It reminds me of that quote from Daniel Craig’s character from the Glass Onion movie: “it’s a dangerous thing to mistake speaking without thought for speaking the truth”. Also, I recall someone - was it Amy on one of her Tibi style classes? - who said to surround yourself with people you disagree with, as a way of flexing that curiosity muscle. That has really stuck with me x

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Gathering information— I want to keep doing that part as long as possible! Fuel! 😘

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Oh Rachel it upsets that some comment got to you. You’re so creative in your style that you inspire me always but above all you are so kind and genuine that it bugs me to see you maybe mildly hurt by this. I too have friends that some time do t get my humor and offer unsolicited advise and that is annoying but it is on them not on you. Thank you for sharing learning and growing never stops and that is a wonderful lesson

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You are amazing! Thank you for being such a lovely support always 😘

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......very well said and very true. keep speaking your speak it allows the growth most of us crave.

shaming shopping , really?... in the beyond other worldly times we are in that is a SHAME!!!!

wise words, thoughtful observations, I am in......... keeping it real mrs. solomon ....I thank you...xxx

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Thank you, Susan 💜

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