I was so touched by this and the suddenness of his death. Your description of clothes as a joyful diversion is apt. Since I was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer, clothes have been a joyful diversion for me and I've often wondered if that makes me shallow or superficial. But then I think of the joy it gives me and how it lifts my spirits, and that is a way of surviving the dark times. Thank you for putting that into words ❤️
Gosh I am so sorry to hear it, and empathise. When I lie awake at night and think about my mum, dad, no longer here and lost to rare diseases, strangely I think about what I will wear the next day and somehow it helps me keep going. I don’t understand the mechanism, but reading your words makes me feel connected at the most fundamental level, thank you
Sending you a big hug. I’m so sorry I know how empathetic you are and cannot imagine how sad you must feel. I’m glad you get to play in your closet and cope with the beauty and the terror that life is ❤️💕
Oh dear, Rachel, that is just the saddest news. I'm so sorry you lost your friend regardless of how well you knew him. I get it and how it also brings up these bigger perspectives on life and mortality and love and joy. So grateful you are in my life even though we also don't know each other well. I consider you a friend. Blessings and a big hug.
Such a heartbreaking, tragic story- some days it feels incredibly difficult to hold both the joy and sorrow together, but I have learned since the death of my mom that not only is it possible, it is absolutely necessary for our well-being. As for the clothes, you reminded me of a post I did during the pandemic- Fashion as hope. The clothes- the dreaming up and putting together outfits- can fill us with a sense of possibility and remind us that there is always something to look forward to, somewhere to go, people to meet and good times to be had. Definitional hope...xx
I’m so sorry Rachel. I think many reading this feel you, feel it and know exactly what you are saying here. It’s never the “how” it’s always the “why” - and you are right - we all lose ourselves in things to find joy because yes life is hard, because we need distractions to survive. Because sadly, in all ways, life moves on and THAT is sometimes the strangest feeling. I send you and his family light and love.
I was so touched by this and the suddenness of his death. Your description of clothes as a joyful diversion is apt. Since I was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer, clothes have been a joyful diversion for me and I've often wondered if that makes me shallow or superficial. But then I think of the joy it gives me and how it lifts my spirits, and that is a way of surviving the dark times. Thank you for putting that into words ❤️
I am so moved and I am so sorry, and I am sending you love.
Gosh I am so sorry to hear it, and empathise. When I lie awake at night and think about my mum, dad, no longer here and lost to rare diseases, strangely I think about what I will wear the next day and somehow it helps me keep going. I don’t understand the mechanism, but reading your words makes me feel connected at the most fundamental level, thank you
I am so sorry tor such loss in your life and honored that you have shared it. And that you are here. ❤️
Thank you for your kindness ❤️
Rachel thank you for sharing your sorrow. Sending warmth.
Sending you a big hug. I’m so sorry I know how empathetic you are and cannot imagine how sad you must feel. I’m glad you get to play in your closet and cope with the beauty and the terror that life is ❤️💕
This note! Thanks for always being such a supportive friend to ne. 😘
I’m so sorry for your loss and for the rip in the universe. It sounds like he was a wonderful light.
A rip in the universe. Yes. Thank you. ❤️
I am moved by your thoughtful and touching piece. I am so sorry for your loss - he was your friend! ❤️
I didn’t realize I loved him but it turns out I did. ❤️
My heartfelt condolences to this family. Losing a child is unimaginable...
Truly. Thank you.
Everyday I sign off my journal with “ be with us, all of us, here and not”.
Sending strength and love to you and to that young man’s family…❤️🩹
That is a beautiful way to sign off, thank you. ❤️
You articulated something I’ve been feeling for a long time, but couldn’t quite find the words. Sending light to you and condolences for your loss.
❤️ thank you -- I really appreciate that. So much.
We need to get lost in books, in love, and in clothes. --> what a bittersweet observation. I’m so sorry for your loss.
❤️ thank you
Oh dear, Rachel, that is just the saddest news. I'm so sorry you lost your friend regardless of how well you knew him. I get it and how it also brings up these bigger perspectives on life and mortality and love and joy. So grateful you are in my life even though we also don't know each other well. I consider you a friend. Blessings and a big hug.
Lisa, thank you for this note, which also made me cry, and also very much helps.
I’m so sorry. May his memory be a blessing
😘 thank you
Such a heartbreaking, tragic story- some days it feels incredibly difficult to hold both the joy and sorrow together, but I have learned since the death of my mom that not only is it possible, it is absolutely necessary for our well-being. As for the clothes, you reminded me of a post I did during the pandemic- Fashion as hope. The clothes- the dreaming up and putting together outfits- can fill us with a sense of possibility and remind us that there is always something to look forward to, somewhere to go, people to meet and good times to be had. Definitional hope...xx
You are a person I knew would understand. Grateful 🥹
This is such a tragic story but a beautifully written tribute!!
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I’m so sorry Rachel. I think many reading this feel you, feel it and know exactly what you are saying here. It’s never the “how” it’s always the “why” - and you are right - we all lose ourselves in things to find joy because yes life is hard, because we need distractions to survive. Because sadly, in all ways, life moves on and THAT is sometimes the strangest feeling. I send you and his family light and love.
Life moves on. Yes. Sometimes it hurts to move and hurts to stay still. I would like to hug you right now. 😘
I am new to reading this and am very touched by your words. So very true and heartfelt as well as heartbreaking. Thank you for sharing this with us.
Thank you so much for reading and for writing ❤️