Hi Rachel! This is such a lovely piece. One trick I’m learning to go easier on myself during this heightened time: my sweet husband regularly talks to himself around the house - after hooking up the tv: “crushed it!” Before taking a cold shower: “you got this!” When he’s a little behind in getting out the door: “I’m workin on it!” I’ve tried it and it works! I immediately feel better. Something about saying it out loud helps. Xoxo
I agree with Xue - what a beautiful, caring, yet practical post. Several wonderful ideas that touched my heart with their honesty and compassion. Thank you, Rachel!
Ok, *really* needed this today as I looked at my crowded closet and felt my heart start to palpitate. Time to arrange a TRT pickup. Thank you for your kind and realistic attitude!
You are such a beautiful writer! This resonated with me so much, along with your beautiful personal note about “asking from friends what you need”. I’m just discovering that it is a thing and it’s helping me be a better friend - to ask “what do you need from me today? - and have much more egosyntonic friendships. Lots of love x
Loved this! Thank you for sharing these little nuggets of wisdom with us! "Wear the thing you bought" hit me right in the feels—guilty as charged. Also, can we talk about that big Bottega shopping bag? Now I’m dying to know what’s inside! 👀
I relate to this right now more around relationships than shopping as I have SO MUCH REGRET around what went down with my last bf. I woke up in the middle of the night last night and identified what I was feeling as a mix of anger, helplessness, and shame and I was like damn, all the worst emotions hitting in a trifecta. And yes the only answer is to sit with them with compassion for myself, distract when necessary, give things time…
Letting all these words wash over me with the love I know you wrote them with. I am trying my best not to comfort my shopping frustrations with other vices (sugar, mostly) so I needed your kindness to remind me to be kind to myself.
Timely advice Rachel. And I’m GRATEFUL for you! For the words of wisdom. For your time, effort and energy. For your acceptance and kindness. And for your authentic and positive vibes!!! 😊
Hi Rachel! This is such a lovely piece. One trick I’m learning to go easier on myself during this heightened time: my sweet husband regularly talks to himself around the house - after hooking up the tv: “crushed it!” Before taking a cold shower: “you got this!” When he’s a little behind in getting out the door: “I’m workin on it!” I’ve tried it and it works! I immediately feel better. Something about saying it out loud helps. Xoxo
OMG love that so so much! Definitely adopting ❤️
This will be my mantra, "Life is short. Shoot your bow."
RIGHT?!? me toooo.
I agree with Xue - what a beautiful, caring, yet practical post. Several wonderful ideas that touched my heart with their honesty and compassion. Thank you, Rachel!
So glad, Susan. And so appreciate your note!
Ok, *really* needed this today as I looked at my crowded closet and felt my heart start to palpitate. Time to arrange a TRT pickup. Thank you for your kind and realistic attitude!
You are not bad! We are human. Sending whatever version of a hug works here.
You are such a beautiful writer! This resonated with me so much, along with your beautiful personal note about “asking from friends what you need”. I’m just discovering that it is a thing and it’s helping me be a better friend - to ask “what do you need from me today? - and have much more egosyntonic friendships. Lots of love x
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THAT. Liza, thank you for writing, and supporting and so much more that I treasure!
Loved this! Thank you for sharing these little nuggets of wisdom with us! "Wear the thing you bought" hit me right in the feels—guilty as charged. Also, can we talk about that big Bottega shopping bag? Now I’m dying to know what’s inside! 👀
LOLOLO! A giant skirt! GIANT.
Haha! A giant skirt, huh? You're definitely taking oversized fashion to a whole new level! Can't wait to see you rock that giant skirt! 💃😄
Well thought out, well said, well done......another win!!!
Thank you Mrs. Solomon.....xxxs
You are the breath of fresh air this world needs Rachel! Loved this x
XO! Thanks, Harry!
I relate to this right now more around relationships than shopping as I have SO MUCH REGRET around what went down with my last bf. I woke up in the middle of the night last night and identified what I was feeling as a mix of anger, helplessness, and shame and I was like damn, all the worst emotions hitting in a trifecta. And yes the only answer is to sit with them with compassion for myself, distract when necessary, give things time…
Exactly that. Compassion. Tender compassion.
“Life is short, shoot your bow.”
I love this for so many reasons other than shopping/buying🙃❤️
Me too. 😚
GRATEFUL for you, your friendship and your deep well of wisdom…xx
And can’t wait to see you THIS WEEK ❤️
Letting all these words wash over me with the love I know you wrote them with. I am trying my best not to comfort my shopping frustrations with other vices (sugar, mostly) so I needed your kindness to remind me to be kind to myself.
Yes, I love this — be as kind to you as you would your (other) best friend.
Timely advice Rachel. And I’m GRATEFUL for you! For the words of wisdom. For your time, effort and energy. For your acceptance and kindness. And for your authentic and positive vibes!!! 😊
🥰 what a wonderful start to my day — THANK YOU, so grateful for you and your warmth
This is pure genius! Thank you and perfect timing for the holiday season.
Love you! 😘
Thank you for this! Such a good reminder for more than shopping. Needed this today!
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I love how you’re always role modeling grace and compassion—and full of practical advice! Thank you. I needed this.
🥰 thanks, Xue! We can all use a hand. ALL! 😘