Mini…yes but for me with tights (4 knee surgeries later my knees look like cauliflowers…) another crazy-but-so-good concept I learned from DVF…nude fishnets hold it all together 😉 also don’t overlook some of the men of the 70’s and 80’s for fleshly inspiration…Jagger. Hendrix. Prince.
This was so interesting! I'm not exactly in my fleshy era right now, but I'm drawn to subtle masculine details like stiff shirts, cufflinks and super high collars. Not fleshy at all, really, but I feel like there's a nod to discipline and submission that has the right kind of kink for me.
What a great post! Lots to ponder. I’ve been noticing I’m feeling the need to wear slightly tighter jeans - less Man-Repellish for lack of a better word.
GREAT post! Had to subscribe. Made me think about my own version of "fleshly" as I tend to lean more into masculine/playful which often doesn't feel like it quite hits the "sexy" mark. My version is a deep V-neck top or a button down that's barely buttoned (extra points for a leopard or lace bralette peeking through). I also bought a leather mini this year, which is very outside the norm for me but has been a 10/10 on the trying new things scale.
I just love this so much! I feel like sexiness requires a very advanced style skillset and I did not even consider it until this post, but you break it down here so well!
So many takeaways here! Love the idea of looking into upgrading those chiller moment in our lives like working out and sleepwear (looks down at ratty hole-ridden tracksuit) 😂
Kudos to you for finding a spark—I’m so far from whatever it is we need to rename, all I could think of when I saw the images was “no one is carrying a shoulder bag… this is inaccessible to me.” But perhaps once I have returned to my adult life (I’m commenting from the bedroom of my girlhood), I’ll have more imagination.
I can relate to all of the women you chose on some level......just cannot get past J.Lo (my own thing). Liking the words sensual and mysterious........will be interesting to see you incorporate this new alter ego..... Looking forward to it. Great newsletter so much info !!!!! xxxx
Just about 59 and no cellulite and I can’t just play tennis all the time to show it off lol…(ps I never play but the skirts..sigh…
I look up Carine a lot for inspiration…
One thing that makes me more confident in a tight pencil or pants is fabric with zero light reflection. I’m going to play with shorter loose AND shiny and see how that feels.
Braless is tempting…I estimate about one more year with the right “hang, tilt, bounce etc” 😆
How about the word alluring? Love this posting and looking forward to see your style change. Remember change is good!
agree - the word "fleshly" is hitting me differently than intended.
Alluring is all about how it looks to the viewer … so that one doesn’t appeal to me! But I think use whatever word works for you!
Mini…yes but for me with tights (4 knee surgeries later my knees look like cauliflowers…) another crazy-but-so-good concept I learned from DVF…nude fishnets hold it all together 😉 also don’t overlook some of the men of the 70’s and 80’s for fleshly inspiration…Jagger. Hendrix. Prince.
Yessssss genius ♥️
This was so interesting! I'm not exactly in my fleshy era right now, but I'm drawn to subtle masculine details like stiff shirts, cufflinks and super high collars. Not fleshy at all, really, but I feel like there's a nod to discipline and submission that has the right kind of kink for me.
Omg yes! A friend gifted me a high Demulemeester collar with a ribbon attached … boss!
What a great post! Lots to ponder. I’ve been noticing I’m feeling the need to wear slightly tighter jeans - less Man-Repellish for lack of a better word.
Ahaaaaa, yep. The right tight jean can feel amazing. We have more than one side, more than one vibe…
Absolutely love this! My key takeaways from your article are a big YES to:
🖤 Get back in black
🐆 Leopard (always a vibe!)
🤍 Tone on tone and neutrals (so chic!)
⚖️ Proportion (it’s all about balance)
🔁 Repeat (because good style deserves a replay)
🖤 Leather (timeless and edgy)
👡 Low heels (comfort + style = perfection)
Such a great read—thanks for sharing!
I LOVE how you gave a fashion cliff notes. You wear -- and create -- for this vibe SO WELL. xoxox
Thank you!! 🥰 You totally get the vibe—means so much coming from you! xoxo
GREAT post! Had to subscribe. Made me think about my own version of "fleshly" as I tend to lean more into masculine/playful which often doesn't feel like it quite hits the "sexy" mark. My version is a deep V-neck top or a button down that's barely buttoned (extra points for a leopard or lace bralette peeking through). I also bought a leather mini this year, which is very outside the norm for me but has been a 10/10 on the trying new things scale.
Thank you for subscribing! And I LOVE your fleshly forays. I am so into the unbuttoned button up and recently did with a new bralette. Same page! XX.
I just love this so much! I feel like sexiness requires a very advanced style skillset and I did not even consider it until this post, but you break it down here so well!
Aw- so glad to hear it was helpful! XX
Love the word fleshly (and every word you’ve written here) but my favorite five = spa time with the girls! xx
WE NEEEEEED IT xx (and before the standard closes for reno!)
YES! Will send around dates…xx
Yes Yes Yes! I want 2024 to be the year of more sexy dressing for me too. Can't wait to see this unfold for you next year! Happy new year darling! Xx
Same to you, my lovely friend ♥️
So many takeaways here! Love the idea of looking into upgrading those chiller moment in our lives like working out and sleepwear (looks down at ratty hole-ridden tracksuit) 😂
I’ll tell you about one night of moisturizer + tanning drops and I already woke up like helll-o! ♥️ 😚
Kudos to you for finding a spark—I’m so far from whatever it is we need to rename, all I could think of when I saw the images was “no one is carrying a shoulder bag… this is inaccessible to me.” But perhaps once I have returned to my adult life (I’m commenting from the bedroom of my girlhood), I’ll have more imagination.
I gave it a whirl today — with a bag —and felt good. Also lying in bed right now with moisturizer on me! A first in a while. Will report back. 😚
I love reading your thought process. I learn so much! So excited to see your experiments ❤️
I already got started. Thanks so much for the support!
I can relate to all of the women you chose on some level......just cannot get past J.Lo (my own thing). Liking the words sensual and mysterious........will be interesting to see you incorporate this new alter ego..... Looking forward to it. Great newsletter so much info !!!!! xxxx
Thanks so much! XX
Great column. Yes, I will forever be obsessed with that Celine collection.
FOREVER! XXOO
Thank you, just joined! So many great ideas!!!
Just about 59 and no cellulite and I can’t just play tennis all the time to show it off lol…(ps I never play but the skirts..sigh…
I look up Carine a lot for inspiration…
One thing that makes me more confident in a tight pencil or pants is fabric with zero light reflection. I’m going to play with shorter loose AND shiny and see how that feels.
Braless is tempting…I estimate about one more year with the right “hang, tilt, bounce etc” 😆
HA! Embraceeeeee the mini. I feel with your hair etc especially, it's great. No tennis required. Thank you for being here!
Pussy bows....I have a love/hate relationship with this item. I've decided I can just admire them and not BUY/OWN them!
Such a good thing to recognize